Pornography and Masturbation

Ben:  Maybe we need patience? Yes, Paul says "I am a new creation". But he also says "Work out your own salvation in fear and trembling". Rome wasn't built in a day!

Suppose you give up porn first, and succeed. THEN perhaps it will be easier to work on your fantasies. You can gradually train your mind away from violence, bondage, perversions or whatever. God wants you to control your mind, not be a slave to sin.

A smoker might say "No no, I want to be free of everything at once! No nicotine patches for me". But surely winning the first step is crucial to winning the war?

Adam [desperate]:  But you don't understand! Masturbation is way more shameful than watching porn! How could I ever face anyone, if they knew what I do? I am a leper, an outcast. I can't believe I'm even telling you this. I've never told anyone.

Besides, I've never seen anyone recommend giving up porn and keeping masturbation. It sounds crazy.

Who is right?